Adjusting to Change

Change is part of life. At Times, change can bring with it a sense of loss. Trying to ignore the pain it brings will only make the loss more difficult. Give yourself time to grieve and adjust—whether you’re mourning the changes brought by divorce, a job loss, the end of a friendship or a child who moved away from home.

Help work through this time with the following suggestions.

· Allow yourself to feel the loss—to feel sad or cry.

· Express your feelings. Talk to friends, family or a professional counselor. Write your feelings down or compose a poem or letter.

· Join a support group

· Ask for help. Don’t assume others know what you need.

· Allow yourself time alone when you need it.

· Eat well, exercise regularly, get enough sleep and see your doctor as needed to maintain your physical health.

· Limit some activities. You may need quiet time to heal.

· Postpone major decisions and changes, such as moving, remarrying or having a baby, until you’ve had time to adjust to the loss.

· Be honest with children. Use words they understand, and assure them they are not to blame.

· Don’t use alcohol, drugs, or food as coping strategies.

· If you are feeling overwhelmed or depressed, talk with your doctor or see a mental health counselor.

Source: Mayo Clinic Health Quest, June 2004